In the workplace, invariably there is someone who is the boss. The person may not necessarily be the oldest either in biological age or years of service in the establishment. In a lot of cases, they may not even be the most knowledgeable or most skilled in the relevant area of expertise.
The task of leadership is so much more about being visionary, giving direction and
taking responsibility than actual labour. To the one under another’s leadership, submission is a matter of obligation and not emotionally-driven. In fact you don’t even have to like your boss or be in agreement with everything they do or represent to defer to them. You acknowledge that by virtue of position and delegated authority, they have the final say, but wait . . . ultimately they also take responsibility for outcomes regardless of who did what.
In deferring to the leader’s authority and directive, one’s worth is not called into question nor is their contribution any less valuable or relevant. Rather there is to be derived some comfort and a sense of security in accepting that while their input is valued (and it should be) the one who has greater stakes is indeed qualified to make the final call. Likewise a wife should submit to her husband . . .
On the flip side, the boss will do well to understand that those they have been given charge over are their responsibility. They know (at least a good boss does!) that to lead is not to “lord” it over others, but to nurture the deposits and cultivate the potentials they have. A good boss looks out for those they lead knowing that their well being collectively determines the output and progress of the corporate entity.
A good boss will shield and willingly take the fall for their “subordinates”. For them it’s always about the good of all rather than the benefit to self. Likewise a husband should love his wife . . .
In a nutshell: Similar to the workplace situation, the husband and the wife each have their position in the structure of marriage and family - with roles, obligations and responsibilities that have been duly assigned by God, the originator of marriage. When each positions himself/herself appropriately, their functioning becomes very complementary and the outcomes beneficial to both and the family as whole . . . and the society at large.
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— [Ephesians 5:21 - 29; NIV]
To do: Whether married or not, understand your place and function as regards marriage based on the admonition of scriptures. Remember, it is in “doing” the word that we are blessed!